Trinidad: Hurt lover kills self on ex’s doorstep

Trinidad

(TRINIDAD GUARDIAN) — A dead­ly gun at­tack by the jilt­ed for­mer boyfriend of a 19-year-old woman in Pe­nal, be­fore he took his own life, has left the com­mu­ni­ty in shock.

Po­lice said Dil­lon Be­dassie, 24, of South Oropouche, went to the home of his ex-girl­friend Tr­isha Ra­goonaths­ingh around 3.30 am on Fri­day where he first fired sev­er­al shots at the house.

Ra­goonaths­ingh’s broth­er Jonathan Moore, 17, who was stand­ing out­side the house, was shot in the chest and foot dur­ing the at­tack. Be­dassie al­so fired at Ra­goonaths­ingh’s moth­er when she opened the door af­ter hear­ing the shots and her son scream­ing. She was forced to close the door and re­treat in­side to pre­serve her own life.

Po­lice said Dil­lon then shot him­self to death on the steps of the house.

Moore was ex­pect­ed to un­der­go a sec­ond surgery yes­ter­day at the San Fer­nan­do Gen­er­al Hos­pi­tal. Po­lice said he was in a sta­ble but se­ri­ous con­di­tion.

When the Sun­day Guardian vis­it­ed Moore’s home yes­ter­day, neigh­bours said no one has been at the house since Fri­day night. They said the fam­i­ly re­cent­ly moved in­to the area and they had no con­tact for them.

“That was re­al­ly shock­ing, we still trau­ma­tised by this whole thing,” said a neigh­bour, who did not want to be named.

The Sun­day Guardian al­so vis­it­ed Be­dassie’s home but a per­son on the prop­er­ty said his rel­a­tives were not at home.

The sto­ry sparked a de­bate on so­cial me­dia, with some ar­gu­ing that women put them­selves in these sit­u­a­tions when they do not choose their men wise­ly.

Con­tact­ed last evening, women’s rights ac­tivist and at­tor­ney Lynette See­baran-Suite said she was not aware of the in­ci­dent, but said vic­tim blame was not help­ing the sit­u­a­tion.

With the new year ap­proach­ing, See­baran-Suite al­so said she looks for­ward to an im­prove­ment in the train­ing of po­lice of­fi­cers on how to deal with do­mes­tic vi­o­lence at the lev­el of the po­lice ad­min­is­tra­tion and acad­e­my. She said do­mes­tic vi­o­lence mat­ters al­so need­ed to be ex­pe­dit­ed in the mag­is­trates’ court.

“An im­prove­ment in the as­sign­ment of mag­is­trates and the punc­tu­al at­ten­dance of mag­is­trates and pay at­ten­tion to deal­ing with do­mes­tic vi­o­lence mat­ters in an ex­pe­di­tious man­ner,” she said.

She said an­oth­er is­sue that has to be looked at is ed­u­ca­tion and pre­ven­tion.

“What do we teach chil­dren from the ear­li­est stages, what they learn at school, what do they learn at home, in their church­es, in their so­cial clubs, how to be a man, how to be woman and how to have re­spect­ful re­la­tion­ships be­tween men and women.”